Do you want the best sex of your life but not sure where to start?
When it comes to our intimate lives, many of us don’t know where to begin. Understanding your needs, desires, and boundaries isn’t something we’re often taught, which can make the first steps feel overwhelming.
As a sex therapist, certified sexologist and relationship counsellor, I’ve gathered some supportive tools to help you take that first step of your intimacy journey.
This is a space to begin exploring – whether you’re looking to reconnect with yourself, deepen your relationship, or simply understand more about what intimacy means to you.
You’ll find a range of free homeplay activities below, created for both individuals and couples. These are designed to gently guide you into reflection, communication, and connection – at your own pace. This exercises are not about doing it perfectly; they’re about beginning the journey with playfulness, curiosity and compassion.
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Sage Wilde is a sex therapist, certified sexologist and relationship counsellor, available in Brisbane and online across Australia.
Activities for Couples
Ask For What You Want
Bossy Massage
Massages are great, but what if the person receiving was fully in charge? This playful exercise flips the script: the Receiver gives the instructions, the Giver follows their lead. No guessing, no pressure—just clear direction, attuned touch.
Body Appreciation
Love The Skin Your In
We’re so quick to criticise our bodies, but what if you turned that around, together? In this exercise, you and your partner take turns admiring each other’s bodies – out loud, with intention, and maybe even a little touch. The only rule? Be specific, and let it land.
Explore Power Play
I’m in Charge Tonight
Want to mix things up? This activity helps you explore power dynamics in a safe, fun way—one of you takes the lead as the Boss, the other surrenders as the Muse. With clear rules, check-ins, and prompts, you’ll build trust, boost excitement, and deepen your connection.
Activities for Individuals
Body Confidence
Connect to Yourself
Instead of avoiding the mirror, this guided practice invites you to really see yourself—with softness, admiration, and curiosity. Through breath, touch, and affirmation, you’ll explore what it feels like to witness your body with love rather than critique.
Pleasure Playlist
Connection to Movement
Let go and immerse yourself in the rhythm of the music. This practice invites you to feel the music, release tension, and move freely with intention. It’s about being fully present, exploring how each movement feels, and connecting with your body.
Sensory Exploration
Connect With All Five Senses
Pleasure is connected to all the senses. This activity invites you to explore arousal and relaxation through all your senses using everyday items. No pressure, no performance- just a gentle way to reconnect with your sensual self.
Quizzes for Insight into Yourself and Partner
Understand Your Love Language
The Five Love Languages, developed by Dr. Gary Chapman, offer a framework for understanding how individuals give and receive love.
By identifying your primary love language—words of affirmation, acts of service, receiving gifts, quality time, or physical touch—you can strengthen your connection with your partner and enhance your relationship dynamics.
Exploring Your Erotic Style
The Erotic Blueprint, developed by Jaiya, is a comprehensive framework that helps individuals understand their unique sexual preferences and desires.
It identifies five core types – Energetic, Sensual, Sexual, Kinky, and Shapeshifter – each representing different ways people experience and express pleasure, providing valuable insight for enhancing intimacy and connection in relationships.
Understanding Your Relationship Patterns
Your attachment style plays a crucial role in how you connect with others, especially in romantic relationships.
It stems from early childhood experiences and influences how you express emotions, respond to intimacy, and manage conflict.
Understanding your attachment style – whether secure, anxious, avoidant, or disorganised – can help you navigate relationships more effectively, improve communication, and foster deeper emotional connections.
By recognising your patterns, you can work towards healthier, more fulfilling partnerships.