Sage Advice
Sage Advice is the name of my sex and relationship blog where you can find articles related to sexual wellness, relationship dynamics and emotional wellbeing. As a sexologist, sex therapist and relationship counsellor, I’ve published these articles to create an educational resource that you can benefit from.
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AI and Relationships
How AI Relationships Can Help or Harm Us We are living through a global loneliness epidemic. People report fewer friendships, less community, less consistent support, and heavier emotional loads than any generation before them. We retreat into work, distraction, overstimulation, and silence. Many describe a growing ache, not always painful, but…
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EMDR for Sex and Intimacy Struggles: Healing the Silent Wounds
Signs of Sexual Struggles – Are You Suffering in Silence? Sexual difficulties rarely exist in isolation. For many, they are the echoes of unspoken fears, the remnants of shame, or the imprint of experiences that were overwhelming, confusing, or never given the space to be processed. You may understand logically why you…
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Dead Bedrooms
The Decline of Sexual Connection in Long-Term Relationships You crawl into bed at night and realise that it’s the first time you’ve actually stopped moving all day. The kids are finally asleep, the kitchen’s (mostly) clean, you forgot the washing, and your brain is still buzzing thinking of tomorrow’s task…
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When Love Becomes a Lifeline: Anxious Attachment, “Love Addiction,” and the Quiet Fight for Safety
Anxious Attachment and Love Addiction There’s a kind of love that doesn’t feel like love at all. It feels like needing oxygen. Like the minute your partner turns away, the floor disappears. You refresh their messages, study their tone, memorise their last seen. You tell yourself you’re just romantic or loyal,…
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When Sex Becomes a Shield: Avoidant Attachment and the Quiet Struggle for Connection
Avoidant Attachment and Sex Addiction You can look calm, competent, even quietly powerful. People trust you, admire your focus, maybe even envy how disciplined you seem. What they don’t see is the private storm, nights spent in secrecy, scrolling or searching for relief; moments of intense arousal followed by hollow…
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Gender Roles and Relationship Dynamics
Why Balance Still Feels So Hard You leave a pot in the sink.A small thing, or so you think. But suddenly, your partner’s frustrated, the mood shifts, and what started as a dish turns into a conversation about respect, effort, and emotional labour. If this sounds familiar, you’re not alone.…
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